Healing Reflections

A longform Healing Reflections essay exploring people-pleasing as a trauma adaptation, a cultural inheritance, and a nervous-system survival strategy — and how truth, boundaries, and authenticity lead us back to belonging.

In this Healing Reflections essay, counsellor and facilitator Martyn Blacklock explores how relationships mirror the balance of Yin and Yang, how tension can create either collapse or starlight, and how we can turn triggers into opportunities for healing through the practice of rupture and repair.

In this Healing Reflections essay, Martyn Blacklock explores society’s fear of suffering and difference—blending stories of trauma, sensitivity, and compassion with insights from Sanders, Eger, Brown, and van der Kolk. A meditation on how facing pain reveals our deepest light.

This Healing Reflections essay explores why couples repeat familiar arguments, and how mis-seen wounds, neurospiciness, implicit memory, and childhood echoes shape conflict. Drawing on trauma theory and lived experience, Martyn Blacklock shows how love becomes a practice of healing together.

A deeply reflective essay exploring the generational roots of men’s loneliness.