Healing Together - Healing Reflections #bessel van der kolkhttps://www.healingtogether.life/blogs/tag/bessel-van-der-kolkThu, 30 Apr 2026 16:21:58 +0200http://zoho.com/sites/https://www.healingtogether.life/blogs/post/the-cost-of-being-good-people-pleasing-trauma-healingA longform Healing Reflections essay exploring people-pleasing as a trauma adaptation, a cultural inheritance, and a nervous-system survival strategy — and how truth, boundaries, and authenticity lead us back to belonging.]]>Wed, 26 Nov 2025 22:39:57 +0000https://www.healingtogether.life/blogs/post/WhatWeFeartoSeeIn this Healing Reflections essay, Martyn Blacklock explores society’s fear of suffering and difference—blending stories of trauma, sensitivity, and compassion with insights from Sanders, Eger, Brown, and van der Kolk. A meditation on how facing pain reveals our deepest light.]]>Mon, 27 Oct 2025 15:24:44 +0000https://www.healingtogether.life/blogs/post/Love-Is-a-Practice-of-Healing-TogetherThis Healing Reflections essay explores why couples repeat familiar arguments, and how mis-seen wounds, neurospiciness, implicit memory, and childhood echoes shape conflict. Drawing on trauma theory and lived experience, Martyn Blacklock shows how love becomes a practice of healing together.]]>Mon, 27 Oct 2025 15:24:44 +0000